Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Cerebral Palsy


My son has cerebral palsy. But, what exactly is cp or cerebral palsy?






CP is such a broad diagnosis meaning a disorder of movement, muscle tone and posture.....
RIGHT?!?! That can be so many things! It's such a broad diagnosis encompassing so many things it's hard to compare one CP case to another. One thing I know for sure is once you have cerebral palsy there is no cure, no remedy, no medications to make that diagnosis go away. It's a forever sentence.

Cerebral Palsy has so many different types, functions, disabilities....that the diagnosis alone gives a 'planner' like me anxiety to the max! I want to know will my child walk, what will his cognitive level be, will he do this, will he understand that.....but Cerebral Palsy is not the same from one person to the other. What's physical and cognitive for one is just physical for the other. What one child does the other child may not...and so on and so on. Blake will have days where his muscles are loose as a goose (I've never really understood that saying- are geese loose?) anyway, back to my point and then with a swift change in the hour Blake's muscles may tense up and become as tight as can be. Where one day Blake may stand tall, and straight the next day his right knee may bend inward. From day to day it changes, and from year to year we see his disability show.






Although cerebral palsy has no cure, with treatment, therapy and plenty of exercising and stretching on a daily basis we can improve Blake's capabilities. We began therapy Occupational, physical and speech with Blake starting as early as 6 months old right after getting home from the NICU in hopes to see him thrive and have the best chance at a 'normal' life.

Blake's disabilities stem from a brain bleed he had as a preemie and primarily affect the left side of his body. His left arm and leg are very tight and rigid at times but he has learned to use his tone to his advantage by helping with stability and grounding himself. His hips and hamstrings have some weakness that others my not have. It's because of this change in tone that we see that as an almost three year old he is still unable to walk unassisted, sit balanced by himself without being in that dreadful "w" or frog like sitting, and he does not speak as much as a normal child.






You may see Blake at times "scissor" his gait, or drag his left leg behind but for a child that was thought to probably NEVER walk or talk or eat unassisted id say we are doing pretty good!





Blake is able to pull up to furniture and walk the length of our couch. He is a monkey through and through climbing on top of a toy box only to climb onto our sofa. He can yell out momma and dada and oooooohhhh- he communicates what he needs and surely let's us know what he doesn't want!












Blake can play on iPads, with toys, choo choos and cars, and puzzles, looks at books and is all and all a normal crazy, loud, playful happy two year old about to turn three. However, he has cerebral palsy- we don't know what this means for his future or what or if there will be any cognitive disabilities. We don't know if he will eventually learn to walk alone without a walker or cane, or if we will eventually need a wheelchair. What we know is that cerebral palsy does not define him....it's just something he has. Anyone who knows Blake doesn't recognize him for his disability but instead as a strong, playful, and an AMAZING child!







Thursday, March 12, 2015

March for Babies 2015













Today my husband and I are writing to inform you not of Blake's progress or his daily doings but rather are writing to ask for you help and bring light to a foundation very close to our hearts. The March of Dimes is a charity/foundation that help with research to help improve the health of babies. One of the biggest contributions they have done that directly effected the path that Blake went down in the NICU was their research done on surfactant therapy. Surfactant is a chemical found in all newborns that allow the babies aveoli to stay open and promotes gas exchange. However, babies born prematurely do not produce enough surfactant on their own that the lungs stiffen, and aveoli are unable to stay open causing lungs to collapse, gas exchange to stop, and eventually leading to death. After over 12 million dollars provided by the March of Dimes Surfactant therapy was approved and is now used on all premature babies to help provide the chemical that their lungs are just too small to produce. Blake received several doses in the first week of his life and is a big part of why he was able to make it through the first few crucial weeks. The March of Dimes has also helped to fund many of the therapies used today on mothers during their pregnancy to help get them to full term, as well as other well known medical procedures, medicines that help lengthen a babies life.









This foundation is such a big help in fighting for the small babies that just don't have the strength to do it themselves. Our team "Team Hargis" will be raising money in memory of our son Conor and in honor of our little fighter Blake.
PLEASE HELP BY DONATING...EVERY DOLLAR COUNTS.
Its not about which team your on, or which team raises the most money. What it is about it helping!
We have several friends,who themselves, are raising money for their families. Please take the time today and donate every dollar counts. For every dollar raised 76 cents is given directly to programs and research that help a babies brain, spine, lungs, heart and eyes. Please visit our site for Team Hargis as well as our friends fighting for the same cause and DONATE!!

www.booster.com/teamhargis2015


































Thursday, February 19, 2015

Snow days

After the snow storm Monday and Tuesday, Wednesday we finally got to go out and play a bit! We have some areas at our house where the drifts are over a foot tall....which left for some awesome snow play!


















Stay warm and safe everyone!

Friday, February 13, 2015

Valentine's

Tomorrow is valentines day....and I have the three most amazing valentines. I feel like the luckiest woman, to be 27 and know what honest, gut wrenching true love feels like. It's indescribable.

I knew when I met Zach that no one could ever give me the same amount of love, respect, and understanding that he did. He made me laugh, made me question and learn. He helped me become a better person all together. No one could ever in my eyes be better or more perfect for me. I still can't believe that Zach chose me to be his wife. Then, as if my love couldn't be grander, he gave me two of the most wonderful children, so perfect, yet so small. They were, literally, the most amazing, miraculous beings I had ever laid eyes or hands on. God granted me with this unbelievable gift- the gift of being Blake and Conor's mother. Being Zach's wife and Blake and Conor's mom is truly my biggest honor.






























Not a day goes by do I not have some thought and longing for Conor. But the fact that I was even graced to see this angel breathe life, if only for hours, is a gift itself. I saw an angel on this earth. I saw God's child, right in front of my eyes and he was mine. He was perfect. And I was his mother.

To my son, You will always be the glimpse of hope, on a other wise hopeless situation. You will always be the smile in the room full of frowns, and You will always be my peak of sunshine on a cloudy day.


"The other night dear, as I lay sleeping I dreamed I held you in my arms When I awoke dear, I was mistaken So I bowed my head and I cried You are my sunshine, my only sunshine You make me happy when skies are gray You'll never know dear, how much I love you Please don't take my sunshine away."

Wednesday, December 31, 2014



2015 was over all a good year.

It had it's moments that I could have done without.






But those same times, that were hard, and heart breaking had these rare moments, that through the tough was perfection. Memories that I will forever remember!








Time has a way of getting away from you, from slipping away. Children grow up right before your eyes...
they go from baby....



to a little trouble making tot in the snap of a finger.






We have made huge strides with Blake's therapy, we've learned to pull up on furniture!



Which means our house is a little more messy than usual!



We've cut that mop on head.....



And now look WAY to old for mommy's liking!



We've gone on vacations,









Our biggest part of therapy this year is we've learned to take steps with our gait trainer (a bigger version of a walker) it's still a work in progress and it's going to take some time to get him to use it independently....but it sure was such a HUGE deal!


We've celebrated christmas.....



And are now looking forward to the new year to come! I have a feeling....it's going to be the best one yet!

Saturday, December 6, 2014

My child

You were born so fragile, so weak, so small.
You fought so hard, but we didn't know if you'd make it at all.

You worked so hard, so determined and strong.
Your journey was so scary, and heartbreaking, and long.

You continue to fight, against all obstacle and odds.
But your story was more than our plan....it was God's.

It was his plan for you to live, for you to fight, everyday.
With help of the doctors, the nurses, and all the people who pray.

It was His will, for you to show the world that miracles are real.
It was His will for you to strive, for you to grow, for you to heal!

I'm thankful everyday for the life he gave you.
You amaze me with every single thing that you do!

Because of you, your daddy and I have grown more in love with each other.
I'm thankful everyday to be called your mother!



























Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...